What is mental toughness?
Mental toughness is a collection of attributes that allow a person to persevere through difficult circumstances (such as difficult training or difficult competitive situations in games) and emerge without losing confidence, In the broadest sense, mental toughness can be defined as the ability to maintain the focus and determination to complete a course of action despite difficulty or consequences—to never quit, period. Mental toughness is not about winning; it’s about not quitting
Mental toughness and success
Mental toughness is what separates the superstar from the merely good. It separates the musicians that play small party gigs from the rock stars. Someone without mental toughness can have all the natural talents or ability and not make it as far as someone with mental toughness with average ability. your talent and your intelligence don’t play nearly as big of a role as you might think. The research studies that I have found say that intelligence only accounts for 30% of your achievement and that’s at the extreme upper end.
What makes a bigger impact than talent or intelligence? The answer is Mental toughness. Research is starting to reveal that your mental toughness — or “grit” as they call it — plays a more important role than anything else for achieving your goals in health, business, and life.
Mental toughness attributes
A Study made by Dr.Graham Jones From University of Wales Institute based on Athletes tells us the main attributes , But whatever applied on sports field can be applicable to any other field.
Participants identified 12 distinct attributes that were believed to be key attributes of the ideal mentally tough performer.
1:Having an unshakable self belief in your ability to achieve your competion goals. , “if you want to be the best in the world you have to be strong enough to believe you are capable of that.”
2: Bouncing back from performance set-backs as a result of increased determination to succeed.
Negative experience is a double edged sword, You can either whine about it or you can Think back to a failure as a stepping stone, That feeling can provide the motivation to keep going, keep practicing.
3: Having an unshakable self-belief that you possess unique qualities and abilities that make you better than your opponents.
4:Having an insatiable desire and internalized motives distractions.
4=:Remaining fully focused on the task at hand in the face of competition- specific distractions.
6: Regaining psychological control following unexpected, uncontrollable events. It’s definitely about not getting unsettled by things you didn’t expect or can’t control. You’ve got to be able to switch back into control mode.
7: Pushing back the boundaries of physical and emotional pain.
Get out of your comfortable zone ,You can’t settle into a routine and expect to make progress.
8: Accepting that competition anxiety is inevitable and knowing that you can cope with it.
9: Not being adversely affected by others’ good and bad percompetition.
9=: Thriving on the pressure of competition.
There are two kinds of people in the world when facing pressure , there are those who crack under it And those who are able to “raise their game when the occasion demands it, no matter what has happened.” The capacity to approach the pressure of competition by “taking it in your stride”
11: Remaining fully-focused in the face of personal life distractions.
One should be able to “block out personal problems.” Once you’re in the competition, you cannot let you mind wander to other things”; and, “it doesn’t matter what has happened to you, you can’t bring the problem into the performance arena.”
12: Switching a sport focus on and off as required.
How to develop Mental Toughness
1:Mental toughness is built through small wins. It’s the individual choices that we make on a daily basis that build our “mental toughness muscle.” We all want mental strength, but you can’t think your way to it. It’s your physical actions that prove your mental fortitude.
2:Building your mental muscle is a lot like building physical muscle. If you want to become physically stronger, you’ll need healthy habits – like going to the gym. You’ll also have to give up unhealthy habits – like eating junk food. Building mental strength requires healthy habits – like practicing gratitude- while also giving up unhealthy behavior – like giving up after the first failure.
3:Be in control of your emotions , Being mentally strong doesn’t mean you shouldn’t cry at funerals or gush at adorable babies just so you can appear tough. Rather than suppressing emotions, building mental strength increases our awareness of them.
We make our best decisions in life when we’re in control of our emotions – rather than allowing our emotions to control us. Mentally strong people are able to recognize when their feelings are likely to lead to unhealthy behavior and they proactively take steps to regulate those emotions.
4: Get out of your comfortable zone If you haven’t pushed yourself in thousands of small ways, of course you’ll wilt when things get really difficult.Always try to move beyond your limits.
5: Find Your Source of Motivation, Even if you maintain realistic expectations, and you’re capable of keeping emotions in check, you still need some motivation from inside of you to keep on keepin’ on. Whether you’re tackling a problem, handling a difficult life event, or looking for a way to push yourself harder during your next workout, you need to stay motivated. So where do you find motivation? The simple answer is that you have to ask yourself, “why?”
Why do I need to solve this problem?
Why do I need to get through this?
Why do I need to get stronger, faster, healthier?
Asking yourself these types of questions helps identify the true reason you need or want to accomplish something and helps keep you on the right track.
Developing mental toughness is a process and it’s not something you can conjure overnight. It takes a lot of patience and a conscious effort to become more resilient. Some things are bigger than all of us, but mental toughness can be your armor that glances the smaller blows away. If you have reasonable expectations, control over your emotions, strong motivation, and the patience to see things all the way through, you won’t ever sweat the small stuff and you’ll be better equipped to handle the big things in your life.
Inspiring stories of Mental Toughness
Oprah Winfrey: She dealt with a lot throughout her public life—criticism about her weight, racism, intrusive questions about her sexuality, just to name a few—but she never let it get in the way of her ambition and drive. When you look at her childhood, her personal triumphs are cast in an even more remarkable light.
Growing up, Oprah was reportedly a victim of sexual abuse and was repeatedly molested by her cousin, an uncle, and a family friend. Later, she became pregnant and gave birth to a child at age 14, who passed away just two weeks later. But Oprah persevered, going on to finish high school as an honors student, earning a full scholarship to college, and working her way up through the ranks of television, from a local network anchor in Nashville to an international superstar and creator of her OWN network.
Jim Carrey: When Carrey was 14 years old, his father lost his job, and his family hit rough times. They moved into a VW van on a relative’s lawn, and the young aspiring comedian—who was so dedicated to his craft that he mailed his resume to The Carroll Burnett Show just a few years earlier, at age 10—took an eight-hours-per-day factory job after school to help make ends meet.
At age 15, Carrey performed his comedy routine onstage for the first time—in a suit his mom made him—and totally bombed, but he was undeterred. The next year, at 16, he quit school to focus on comedy full time. He moved to LA shortly after, where he would park on Mulholland Drive every night and visualize his success. One of these nights he wrote himself a check for $10,000,000 for “Acting Services Rendered,” which he dated for Thanksgiving 1995. Just before that date, he hit his payday with Dumb and Dumber. He put the deteriorated check, which he’d kept in his wallet the whole time, in his father’s casket.
Bill Gates: Before Microsoft was born, Bill Gates suffered failure in business. Known today to be one of the wealthiest men in the world, Bill Gates’s upper middle-class family is a stark contrast from some of the other successful failures out there that didn’t have well-off parents.
However, Bill Gates didn’t rely on his family. His business acumen was second to none. Although his first business was indeed a failure, it didn’t discourage him from trying again. He didn’t want to give up because the sheer notion of business intrigued him. He was cleverly able to put together a company that revolutionized the personal computing marketplace. And we all know just how successful that was for him.
A shield you really need
Mental toughness is like a shield to the mind , helping you taking a knock after a knock from life , and yet still standing on your feet challenging it , Having a Bring it on attitude. Instead of saying
” Why me ? ” replace it with ” Try me ! ” .