The Little Things We Do

Why Courtesy is Important ?

Courtesy is the use of polite manners. A courteous person is respectful and considerate of others. Courteous behavior requires a selfless attitude and can give you perspective on others’ situations. Kindness and consideration can build your reputation as a respectable, thoughtful person.
Chances are your parents taught you to say “thank you” and “you’re welcome,” but a courteous attitude is about more than the basics. Look for ways to help others — open the door for someone whose hands are full. Not only do courteous behaviors show you are thinking of others first, they also make you a more pleasant person to be around

Courtesy at Home

We are at our best when we are being kind, generous, and gracious to strangers—innocent strangers, kind strangers. But one of the most difficult places to demonstrate kindness and communicate respect is at home around family members. The reasons vary: We take them for granted and think they’ll love us anyway. We think they’re not worth the effort. We spend so much time with them that familiarity breeds irritability.Whatever the cause, rudnessn all its forms—words, actions, and inactions––has destroyed many family relationships.
“Don’t sweat the small stuff” is advice often given to help people prioritize the big things that must be done over the little ones that can be let go.
In families, however, between partners or between parent and adolescent, certain “small stuff” should be sweated because it is really “big stuff” in disguise.  One example is a minor kind of treatment of others that can have major impact on the quality of relationships
Courtesy behaviors are those small gestures that define how thoughtfully people treat each other on a daily basis.  Expressing special consideration, our extra efforts matter because the receiver of courtesy feels like he or she matters to us. Such as Helping your wife with the dishes , The observance of courtesy behaviors contributes much to quality of family life just as omissions of courtesy can erode that quality in painful ways.  Therefore, it can help to let other people in the family know what courtesy behaviors mean a lot to you. 
Says the parent: “It’s important to me that you make an effort to be on time because that shows that you RESPECT me and the agreements we have made.”  Says the teenager: “When I finally do what you wanted me to get done, it’s important for me to be told that you APPRECIATE what I did.”
And when denied a simple courtesy, brave whatever foolishness you feel and speak up.  Says the parent: “I know you’re not that late, but when you’re going to be delayed more than 20 minutes getting home after being out, please give me a call so I don’t worry that you’re not all right.” Says the teenager: “I know I didn’t get it done right away, but I did get it done and I’d like to be told that you recognize that I did.”
Courtesy matters because it conveys caring in a host of little ways, because omissions can hurt, and because these specific acts are laden with symbolic meaning. Acts of courtesy count for a lot.

Courtesy at Workplace

professional courtesy is just as simple as using the Golden Rule at work. Do unto your co-workers as you would have them do unto you
 it’s easy to blame technology for the decline of professional courtesy  after all, hasn’t our tweeting, posting, texting, and emailing taken away from our ability to, for example, talk to each other?
But more than that, there’s been a moral lapse in today’s workplace in which treating business associates with courtesy and respect is no longer regarded as critically important. As we’re all required to do more with less, have we simply run out of time for workplace pleasantries?
Below are some examples of how we can be courteous in workplace

Common Courtesy and Good Manners

Greet people at the office with a smile, look them in the eye and make an effort to exchange polite conversation. A positive attitude can be contagious and your friendly greetings each day demonstrate your respect for everyone from the receptionist to your boss to the janitor. Fall back on the manners your parents drummed into you as a child: hold doors for people, say “please” and “thank you” and shake hands when you’re introduced to someone.

Professional Courtesy

There’s usually one person in every workplace that can’t seem to ever get to a meeting on time, and she often shows up late for work and lunch, too. She’s always “sorry” and has some sort of excuse, but the message she’s really sending is that she doesn’t have much respect for other people’s time or schedules. Demonstrate professional courtesy by showing up on time for meetings, presentations or other work-related events, including being on time for work every day. This also means meeting deadlines and completing assignments or duties that your co-workers depend on to get their own jobs done.

Concern and Condolences

Managers and coworkers can demonstrate courtesy by being attentive to a fellow employee’s state of mind and health. Take on some of an employee’s workload if he looks ill and sluggish; suggest a sick day. Allow a person to stay home or leave early if a family member is ill. Many people who are hospitalized or bedridden appreciate receiving cards and flowers. Similarly, if a family member dies, show respect by offering condolences as well as sending flowers and offering support.

Personal Space and Belongings

You know how you hate it when someone takes your last diet soda out of the breakroom fridge, right? One of the first rules of workplace respect is to leave co-workers’ belongings alone. Don’t help yourself to things that aren’t yours — this includes food, coffee mugs, office supplies and assigned parking spots. And respect co-workers’ personal space, too. Don’t barge into their offices or cubicles without knocking or announcing yourself, and don’t interrupt when other people are having a private conversation.

Courtesy in Various Beliefs

Courtesy in  Christianity

The golden rule in Christian Belief is narrated in this verse
“So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets ” Matthew 7:12
It is true that most people want to be treated with respect, kindness, love, etc. Also, it is true that people respond well when treated with respect, kindness, love, etc. It is a mutual sensibility

Let your speech always be with grace, as though seasoned with salt, so that you will know how you should respond to each person.” Colossians 4:6. To speak with grace means to say what is spiritual, wholesome, fitting, kind, sensitive, purposeful, complementary, gentle, truthful, loving, and thoughtful. 

Courtesy in Islam

“When a courteous greeting is offered to you, greet in return with a greeting still more courteous, or at least of equal courtesy.Surely, Allah keeps an account of all your actions.” Surah Al-Nisa Verse 86
meaning, if the Muslim greets you, then return the greeting with a better one or at least equal to what was given. Therefore, the better salaam is recommended, while returning it equally is an obligation.
The Muslims were specially exhorted to be very civil and polite to the non-Muslims because at that time their relations were strained on account of the conflict between them. In that state of tension, they were forewarned to be on their guard against incivility and impoliteness. They were, therefore, taught to be equally civil and polite to them when they greeted them respectfully. Nay, they should be even more civil and polite than their opponents.

” Kind speech and forgiveness is better than charity followed by injury, and Allah is Self-Sufficient, and He is Most-Gentle.Surah Al-Baqarah Verse 263. The spirit is that the charity giver is giving charity to make Allah happy. Allah loves people with good manners and good behaviour. Allah does not need charity as in Verse 263 ‘And Allah is Rich (Free of all needs) and He is Most-Forbearing’. On the other hand it is the need of people to behave with each other in a good manner and in a modest patient way and to be courteous, not to say mean comments after giving the charity or otherwise God might not accept it.

Courtesy is a Lifestyle

So its not just opening doors , its about the way you speak and act in different life situations , It’s a lifestyle. The little things we do makes the big difference

References

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/surviving-your-childs-adolescence/201105/adolescence-and-the-power-parental-courtesy
http://classroom.synonym.com/courtesy-important-21035.html
http://booher.com/general-communication/communication-skills-does-courtesy-matter-at-home-as-well-as-at-work/
http://smallbusiness.chron.com/demonstrating-courtesy-respect-workplace-34529.html
http://www.marketplace.org/topics/business/commentary/its-time-bring-back-professional-courtesy

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