The virtue of patience

Fast paced life

Patience is the ability to tolerate waiting, delay, or frustration without becoming agitated or upset. It’s the ability to be able to control your emotions or impulses and proceed calmly when faced with difficulties. It comes from the Latin word pati which means to suffer, to endure, to bear.
Needless to say, Patience does not come easily to most of us and it’s probably harder now to be patient than historically it has ever been.
In today’s world of ‘instant everything’, technological advancements and readily available credit have allowed us to obtain, experience, and consume practically anything we want – almost immediately. Everything has became one click away from getting it. We want everything, we want it our way, and we want it now! We think that if we slow down we’ll fall behind. This fast paced rhythm makes us unconsciously impatient.
Impatience contributes to feelings of anxiety, anger, dissatisfaction, and failure. It can ruin relationships with friends, partners, co-workers, and children. Being impatient is not an attractive quality and results in feelings of guilt for your out-of-control behavior. Being impatient can get you into real trouble. It can make you physically ill.

The power of patience

M.J. Ryan, author of The Power of Patience says “I’ve come to understand that it’s really made up of three aspects. One is persistence. That’s the capacity to keep on going even though you can’t yet see the end result. It’s what keeps us moving toward our goal and thus helps us make our dreams come true. Two is acceptance. Accepting that whatever is happening right now is the way it is. The third is a  Sense of peacefulness or serenity or calmness in the face of what is.”
The key to patience is acceptance. When we are impatient, we are refusing to accept our circumstances or refusing to accept others as they are. We feel that we have to get busy and control, and fix everyone and everything. When we are impatient, we actually have the nerve to believe that the world should operate according to our wishes and our timetable. Impatience creates tremendous stress on each of us as well as those around us.

The virtue of Patience

In the holy Bible we can see this verse {Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer.} (Romans 12:12)
And in the Noble Quran{Indeed, the patient will be given their reward without account} (Az-Zumar 39:10)
Patience is a virtue because it makes us better people. The definition of the word is to tolerate delay. This implies self control and forbearance as opposed to wanting what we want when we want.
“As your faith is strengthened you will find that there is no longer the need to have a sense of control, that things will flow as they will, and that you will flow with them, to your great delight and benefit.” Quote said by Emmanuel Teney. Patience is the faith that even that things might not turn out as we planned that God has store for us something better.

Different situations that requires patience

Patience with Doing Good
Patiently persevering in doing good takes many forms: it can be anything that is praiseworthy in the religion – whether it is acts of worship, our relationships with people, etc. It is sometimes tempting to return like with like. If someone is rude to us, let’s try to be like God’s Name As-Sabur (The Patient). Despite all the wrong that we commit, He is patient with us and does not punish us immediately. If we appreciate this patience from God, should we not try to have the same kind of patience with people?

Patience with Stopping Ourselves from Doing Bad
It is much easier to fall into sin. But the one who constantly prevents himself from doing bad, can be of the people who is beneath the shade of God. This requires patience and conviction; despite the hardship, we are doing something that is beloved to God. Nowadays we are taught to strive to achieve what we want no matter what. Although having ambition and drive is good, it should not be by compromising our ethics. We may have to face setbacks now and then, but when we remember that our aim is for the hereafter and not simply this world, patience is easier to inculcate.

Patience When Something Bad Happens
It is not easy to bear bad news and not lose it or break down. It is even harder to prevent ourselves from questioning something that is so, in our eyes, blatantly bad. Why? But as we said before, there is a reason for tests. This is why we are taught in the Quran to say: “To Allah we belong and to Him we return” so that when are afflicted, we remember that nothing is outside the realm of God’s knowledge, power and mercy. He knows this is happening, and there is a higher purpose to it.

The Benefits of Developing Patience

1:Reduces stress levels and makes you a happier, healthier person. When you learn and practice patience you don’t get as angry, stressed or overwhelmed. You are more in control of your emotions and in a better position to deal with difficult situations with ease and poise. This promotes longevity and makes you a happier, healthier person.

2:Results in better decision-making.  When you’re patient you take the time to assess the situation, see the big picture, and weigh any pros and cons. The chances of making a big mistake lessen because you avoid making it in haste. Taking the time to solve problems requires patience and deliberation.

3:Helps develop understanding, empathy and compassion. You are automatically more understanding and compassionate with others when you yourself are patient. Patient people take the time to process what they go through and are able to determine what it takes to overcome obstacles so they are more understanding of others. This results in better, more fulfilling relationships with spouses, friends, children and bosses.

4:Helps you understand and appreciate the process of growth. As mentioned earlier anything worthwhile takes time and effort to achieve. As the old saying goes “Rome wasn’t built in a day.” Planning, growth, evaluation and measurement all take time, and taking time takes patience

The sooner you learn the art of being patient, the easier and more peaceful your life will become. So hurry up and learn to develop this vital quality of patience. When you’re patient, you give up the struggle. You relax and enjoy your life and your relationships, and experience the beauty of each moment.

References:

http://life.gaiam.com/article/how-practice-patience-stressful-times

http://www.essentiallifeskills.net/patience.html

http://www.chvbv.ca/the-quality-of-patience/

http://www.onislam.net/english/reading-islam/living-islam/growing-in-faith/452740-allah-is-with-the-patient.html

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